How do you give and receive love? This assessment for people of color looks at eight ways of loving. Alongside words, time, help, touch and gifts, it includes the family, faith and cultural affirmation that many of our communities treat as part of love.
Think about the people you love most: a partner, spouse, family member or close friend. Every kind of relationship and every identity is welcome.
Each of you takes the assessment and copies your love code from the results. Paste both codes here to see where your ways of loving match and where they differ.
Popular love quizzes focus on two people alone. For many people of color, love is also lived through family and community, faith, and being affirmed in a world that does not always affirm us. Research on Black, Latine, Asian and other couples and families points to extended kin, spirituality, shared cultural identity and support in the face of discrimination as sources of relationship strength (for example, Bryant et al., 2010; Kelly & Floyd, 2006; Trail et al., 2012).
Love should never hurt or control you. If someone threatens, hits, isolates or controls you, that is not a love style. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is free and confidential: call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. In crisis, call or text 988.
This is version 1.0. Doc Lobe is studying its content validity with an expert panel and its reliability (Cronbach's alpha) as people take it. Sharing your anonymous answers is optional. See the research page.
Original items written by Doc Lobe Teaching, Learning, and Research Firm. Not affiliated with or adapted from any commercial love or relationship test. For education and self-reflection only; not a clinical tool.
